At this point, you’re probably looking at this self-doubt situation and thinking, Okay, this is messed up. I see it now. I want to do something about it.

But here’s the kicker: you don’t trust yourself to fix the fact that you don’t trust yourself.

Let that sink in for a second.

Someone, somewhere along the way, convinced you to give away the very thing that would allow you to help yourself. They taught you to doubt your instincts so effectively that even now—when you recognize what’s been stolen—you still feel like you need permission to take it back.

Are you starting to see how deep this goes? How many layers of “this is for your own good” have piled up over the years, keeping you from realizing that the only person who can truly know what’s best for you is you?

This isn’t just about fear. It’s not just about hesitating before taking a leap. It’s about the fundamental belief that you are incapable of leading yourself. That someone else—someone with more experience, more authority, more letters behind their name—knows better.

And that’s exactly the thing we need to unlearn.